Eating Crow

“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing” – Benjamin Franklin

I made a serious mistake. I used a word I did not know the true meaning of yesterday. I thought the word defined frivolous behavior. It does not. What was I thinking?

A dear friend succinctly made me aware of this egregious error as only she can.

There is absolutely nothing frivolous about misogynistic behavior.

I failed to vet the word. I thought I knew. Big mistake.

I apologize to Judy and anyone else I probably offended.

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“Everything happens for a reason. But sometimes the reason is that you’re stupid and you make bad decisions”


Should I watch the Masters or take a nap? Welllllllll…..what if I usurp 4 days and 16 hours of my limited time and Sergio Garcia wins it again. How depressing would that be?

Win this thing Ricky. Return balance to the Golfing world.

What if I shared a light hearted joke about the many differences between the sexes with my wife and daughter? Would they appreciate the satirical humor or react with silence and hostile frowns?

Unfriend those who are prone to political rants even though I like them a lot? Decisions….decisions.

Hike on the Riverside trails or walk the mall? Esthetic preference.

Enjoy the present with desirable acquisitions or save?

Cheese cake or Blue Bell Home Made Vanilla? Impossible agony.

Storm shelter or roll the dice. Hmmmm. Safety vs cost.

Premiere League Soccer or Live PD? Order vs mayhem.

Burgers or Fajitas? Need help here.

So many daily decision. So many minefields.


Me: We need to fall asleep.

Brain: No, let’s stay awake and think about every bad decision we made today.

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Take a Hike

“The realization floods into your veins and overwhelms you” – Don’t let go by Harlan Coben

The city of Tulsa maintains 3 or 4 miles of hiking trails on something called Turkey Mountain located west of and bordering the Arkansas River.

Turkey Mountain

The trails vary in length and difficulty. A few are short and flat. Others are long and steep. Choose your poison.Gaby leading the way. Show off

Our preference is flat and short. But, no matter your choice, all offer lots of fresh air, healthy exercise, fun, and wonderful human experiences.

One of my many resting rocks.

Wonderful because as we huff and puff our way down the trail, we meet, greet, and converse with warm, friendly, family oriented people. I almost forgot they existed.

We came to a fork in the trail and took it.

Hikers having a good time.

Physical health and emotional peace.

So simple. So easy to find.

When someone tells you to take a hike……………….take a hike.

“Happiness was like moving on thin ice” – The Thirst by Jo Nesbo

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Help. I’ve Fallen and I Can’t Get Up

“I can resist everything but temptation” – The Force by Don Winslow

Are you sick of these TV commercials?

“Help. I’ve fallen and I can’t get up”

I know I am.

I don’t enjoy the graphic depictions of yet another land mine associated with ageing.

I mumble something like – get up you pitiful old fart. You make us all look bad.

I should be ashamed of such nasty thoughts. Right?


Anyway, my friend Harry has a plan.

Identify all of the potential “FALL ZONES” in and outside his house.

Bathtubs, Stairs, Rugs, and…….well……you get the idea.

Then make FALL KITS to include a phone, meds, snacks, pillows and blankets.

Place a kit at each FALL ZONE.

Harry doesn’t worry about falling anymore.

He’ll just take a nap until Joan finds him.

How great is that?

Call me Harry. There’s money here. I can feel it.

“In fact, looking back, it seems to me that I was clueless until I was about 50 years old” – Nora Ephron

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Think Too Much

“Her smile lit every dark place in his soul” – To the Last Man by Jeff Shaara

Did you ever wonder what we sound like to the British? We know what they sound like to us. You hear a Brit speak and right away you know he’s from England.

Unless of course he’s from Scotland. Then you have no idea what his nationality is or what language he’s speaking. Am I right?

Enough already.

Know anybody who’s always stewing over something? Walks around with a somber expression. Seldom laughs? Hardly ever smiles?

They think too much. Wonder about everything. Always searching for an answer to even the most trivial matters such as what do we sound like to the British?

I know that person. He was me.

Now………………………not so much.

Thanks to my daughter, I’ve reconnected with my funny bone.

Ahhhhh………….the rewards of laughter. Good for the soul as well as the body.

Laughs and smiles.

I can live with that.

And some love. Got to have the love.

“Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence” – Aristotle

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Time and Place

“Intuition informed by knowledge becomes priceless common sense” – Critical Care by Theresa Brown

You just walked a mile through a large retail operation. You’re tired. Somewhat irritable.

You just want to pay and go home. Get out of there.

There are 20 checkout counters. Only 5 are open and the lines are long.

Resigned, you stand and wait.

Finally. Your turn. Goods are laboriously placed on the moving belt.

“Good morning. Would you like to make a donation to end Children’s Hunger?”

You’re caught off guard. The clerk is looking at you. The person behind you is looking.

If you say no, the implication is you are a stinking piece of human garbage.

Never mind that the clerk has not given you full disclosure.

Like – what is the name of the charity? Will this benefit the local community? How much of a donated dollar goes for salaries and advertisement? How much is Walmart being paid to solicit? Etc. Etc. Etc.

No………….you are requested to make a snap decision to someone you don’t know regarding a charity that is nameless.

How many are victims of this deceptive form of coercion?

I believe everybody should check out a charity first. They should be given that opportunity.

I told the clerk no I would not and that I considered the question condescending and impertinent.

She looked at me like I just stepped out of a UFO.

Would you have done the same?

”Delusion was an essential fact of life for the average person” – The Thirst by Joe Nesbo

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Wow. Just experienced my first earthquake.

Was working on the computer when, at 5:22 am, the room shook. Not too much but enough to get my attention. It lasted just a few seconds and left me wondering.

What the hell was that? Went to the bedroom. Gaby awake in bed. She asks, “did you feel that earthquake?” That confirmed it for me.

News reported it was a 4.3 quake centered in Perry, OK., about 80 miles west of Tulsa.

Scratch that off my bucket list.





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A Gift

“Happiness is the meaning and purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence” – Aristotle


My daughter Ann is Bi-Polar. It is a very difficult condition to live with. A heavy cross to carry. And especially difficult to carry alone. No one to share the load. No one to laugh or cry with.

Around 2007 she was diagnosed. Before that, we had no idea. I didn’t even know what Bi-Polar was. I read. I learned. Or so I thought.

I had no idea how brave she is. How determined she was to deal with life in spite of her life long sentence to forever travel a road full of emotional pit falls.

She lived alone for about 20 years. During that time she worked, bought a house, rescued and cared for abandoned pets, got on with living, alone.

We had no idea of the hell she was dealing with. We knew it was difficult. We had no idea just how difficult. Now that we’ve witnessed the ups and downs first hand we understand.

In the short period we’ve lived with Ann, I’ve had to reevaluate my convictions of so much I thought was absolute and, somewhat set in my ways, I was able to make a few adjustments. It took some time but I was up to the task.

Oddly enough, it pleases me to realize that I’m not a complete dogmatic old fart.

So the other day Ann and I were sitting outside, just soaking up a nice, warm, spring day.

It seemed like the perfect time to share a few thoughts with her.

Ann, I want you to know something. This is not a one way trip we are on. You have given me a wonderful gift since we’ve been here.  Something that has been missing in my life.

The gift of laughter.

You have a marvelous sense of humor. You have a gift. And you make me laugh till my body screams for mercy. I believe it to be one of the greatest gifts of all. Thank you for making the pain go away.

Why are you crying Ann?

Because when you die, I’ll be lost. No reason to go on.

That caused me to pause and collect my thoughts.

We don’t know what the future holds. It’s been my experience that somehow each life will always find a purpose. Look forward to the discovery. That is reason enough to live.

Then we both wept.

God help me. I pray I articulated the appropriate thought.


“Suicide always seems like a very unpleasant sneer at the rest of the human race” – Dead Low Tide by John D. Mcdonald

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I don’t get it.

“One day you just wake up and discover that you got old while you were sleeping.” – “This is where I leave you” – by Jonathan Tropper

My cousin Richard. Three years older than I. What a guy. When I was 15, he was my hero.

He had a license and a car.

Did fun things like drive that old 49 Ford from the passenger side so it would look like nobody was driving that thing and other such nonsense.

Fun loving guy. Free spirit. Always so full of life.

Now, at 78, that guy is just hanging on. Waiting to die.

He never married and lives alone with his thoughts, memories, and a few health issues. Nothing fatal. Just annoying.

Here’s the rub. He’s ready to die. Any day. Right now.

His attitude just infuriates me. How can he be so casual about death?

I don’t want to die. Not now. Maybe in 500 years.

I have my demons. My health issues. But dying is not an option.

I won’t acknowledge it.

How is it possible to be so insouciant about one’s mortality?

I don’t get it.

“I hated that kind of reflex, to gloss over the scabs of a person’s life. No one was perfect, except in tragic death” – The Thirst by Jo Nesbo

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“The best survival strategy was always to copy old men, because they, after all, were the winners, the survivors” – The Thirst by Jo Nesbo

Too many of us fail to break the crippling grip of our environment and life experiences. Sad and very unfortunate for mankind.

Given that we are all flawed, why would anyone allow another human being to advise them how to think on such important and personal issues as religion, politics, and morals?

Possibly there is a celestial penalty we all pay for failure to utilize our brain’s capacity to think.

There certainly is an earthly price.

Having shared these thoughts…………………………..



It’s the same model of intellectual submission that dictatorships have used throughout time, the concept of a higher reasoning without any obligation to discharge the burden of proof” – The Redeemer by Jo Nesbo

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